Be True to Yourself First

108 Sun Salutes

“Be True to Yourself”  I’ve heard and read this many times but never really comprehended what it meant.  How? In what way? And how do I know if I am or aren’t?

Some days are just great but lately everything seems to be a struggle.  Well not everything, my meditation practice is getting easier to make time to sit, my yoga asana practice is consistent, I still enjoy running, and biking.  And hope to get into the pool more.  But something is missing.

My work focus is not what it should be.  I lose concentration as I drift like from one feeling to the next during the day.  The company I work for is being sold so this may be contributing as I do not know if my department will remain.

But how to ‘Be True to Myself’ first.

Write it Down – Spend time exploring the feelings you are having.  Journal or just write down what you are feeling and why?  Sometimes it’s hard to verbally express them to someone, even someone close, for fear of judgement.  If you’ve been hurt before by telling someone you’ll likely to hold it in.  Even repressing the feelings.  Writing in a journal does not have to be fancy or even grammatically correct.  I find if I try to write a certain “correct” way, I get stuck.  Just let it flow.

Feelings are not Wrong – Has anyone said “You’re not supposed to feel that way.”   Feelings we have are never wrong.  WE have a specific way of feeling with every experience.  And whether someone else believes it not right to feel a certain way, they are misguided.  Hell they’re wrong.  I was once told I should not feel sad about losing a pet.   Well why the hell not.  The dog was a part of my family.  It was like losing a loved one.  Explore your feelings and if someone says “You’re not supposed to feel that way.”, then you have to power to tell them how you feel about THAT!!!

Be Honest – Do you hold back, not tell the whole truth.  Swerve around issues or uncomfortable situations?   Being honest, from my point of view, is about being open and truthful in all you say and do.  Be available for feedback and don’t hide it or think it will blow over.   It will come back to haunt you.  It always does.  With social media and search engines you never know where you’ll turn up.

Allow Yourself Time – “Time is the one thing I need but never have.”   Allow yourself time to develop and be open.  When I do not have enough time, I then know I need to reassess all the stuff I am doing.  I am not a list maker and oh do I have hard time saying NO.  Which gets me into more hot water than I realize until it’s a rolling boil.  It’s easy to say and harder to do.

Be Compassionate with Yourself – It’ OK.  Don’t beat yourself up.   Create a mantra, an affirmation of the best parts of you.  Write it down and carry it with you where ever you go.  Yes even to bed.  Laminate it to protect it.  If it becomes tattered or torn, it most likely will at some point, write down again.

Say it to yourself and let others know what it is.  Change it if you feel the need.  But never stop.

Now I am not a doctor, philosopher, or have any formal training.  This comes from the heart.  The center of my experiences.  Hopefully you find something that helps.



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I greet yoga each day as a friend I can release my deepest wounds to without judgement or commentary.  Not anger or hurtful, but solace and calm.  Staying with breath to relax the mind, open my heart.

Awakening, just awakening to follow the path God has set forth.  HIS path that guides me. Not to turning away but to follow.  And along this path to accept, embrace and awaken to that to The Divine.

St Jude is the patron saint of the lost cause.  Ganesha removes obstacles.  Faith and practice bring it all together.

Last week someone wrote me “You’re beautiful…precisely as the divine intended!”  I’m not sure I believed that completely last week.  But it’s progressing.

One cannot expect to heal without caring for the wound. Let our practice be our medicine. Our breath to wash the wound, asana and pranayama as the ointment and dressing, meditation to observe and release allowing the healing to progress.  Not in an instant but over time.  Rushing healing is like pulling the bandage off too soon.  It will happen over the course.

The wounds we have carried over time did not happen in an instant.  Do not rush it.  But nurture.

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When the Heart Sings

When the Heart Sings.

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When the Heart Sings

A heart searching for love is like a note searching for a lyric.  When they find each other interweaving they make beautiful music.

The searching is the journey.  But once found the heart and the note must not stop there.  They cultivate a relationship.  The heart with the whole love it has found and the note with the whole of the song.

For love is not a conquest and number 1 hit songs fade.   The deeper the love grows, the more powerful the song.

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Work In

Why do we always focus on our exterior?  We buy cosmetics to improve our facial appearance.  We dye our hair to “wash away the grey”.  We spend thousands of dollars on outfits that only a few will see.  We buy expensive cars that are more about status than functionality.

Some work “out” to seek some level of perfection of the exterior.  I am not judging what you do or how you do it or why you do it.

I might suggest we spend time Working on the IN.  Sitting quietly with the only sounds being that of life, of what is occurring inside of ourselves.   Maybe it’s the beat of your heart, the soft sound of your natural breath, the joy of giggle.  Whatever it may be, embrace and absorb how it affects your IN.

As you begin to experience Working In,  the loss of desire or pursuit of Working on the Out will not fade, but will become more meaningful and purposeful.

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Yoga Is Not Just About the Pose

“Practice and all is coming” Sri K Pattabi Jois
Every day I practice yoga, whether on the mat or in the world, I can feel the transformative power of Yoga. “Yoga is not about the pose..” the words from a poem I once read ring truer each and every day.

On a rough emotional day, the mat brings energy and release, on anxious days meditation brings calm, serenity, and balance.

The transformation through the experience of yoga, one is able to transform painful into healing, difficult into bearable, good into better,

Using my experiences in life have truly allowed me to create in hopes of the student discovering the experience of opening. As much as teaching is the joy of sharing, the transformation of heart, breath, mind, and soul is more powerful than the pose.

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Off the Beaten Path

Off the Beaten Path.

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